This week, Kate is hosting Best Boot Forward and talking about how the positive stuff in the news such as the rescue of the Thai boys and their coach as well as the good performance by the England Men's team in the World Cup is helping us see it's not all doom and gloom, and that perhaps we could apply a bit of optimism to our own lives, ensuring we see good news in our future.
Last week I watched a documentary on Rik Mayall (you can find it on iPlayer and I'd highly recommend watching it) which really affected me. It sounds absurd and probably is. I was feeling very, very low and emotional that morning mainly due to lack of sleep and it just happened to be on. I'm a big fan of (good) comedy in general and I love Rik Mayall in many things. What I hadn't realised was just how much he had done in his lifetime and with such vigour. By all accounts, he was an exuberant, self assured and much loved character. Everything he did, he did with energy and passion and often stole the show. On top of his exuberance, he was apparently a very kind and generous man and nobody seemed to mind that he would explode into something and take over.
There was a great part about The Young Ones and how these oiks from Scumbag College were the antithesis of the Oxbridge Elite and how actually that reflected what Rik Mayall and Ade Edmondson were doing in reality with comedy dominated by he likes of the Oxbridge educated Pythons. They weren't afraid that anyone was better than them, they just did their own, anarchic thing and it was glorious.
Rik also gave a great talk to graduates at Exeter University when he was given an honorary doctorate in 2014. I'd advise watching it all but listen below to his 5 mantras (the video below will start at the right point) as they're just great.
It seemed to me that this is the way to live. I have spent so many years being afraid. Afraid of not being good enough, afraid of ridicule, afraid of offending people, afraid of doing the wrong thing, afraid of my own personality. My goal for the future is to take fear out of my life as much as I can. I see a future that can only get better. I see a future where I work hard to achieve what I want and don't fear what others think of that. I see a future where I'm driving a fucking Range Rover.
I see a future where we're not just getting by anymore. Don't get me wrong, it's not about material things (except the Range Rover…) but about stability. And maybe a little bit about shoes too.
I no longer fear that I am not good enough to deserve or achieve stability. I am, and I will.