Striding

I don't know about you, but I am striding into 2018, looking forward to all it's going to bring my way.

As I mentioned previously, I won't miss 2017 but I am grateful for all it's experiences, good and bad.

In all honesty, I was quite a big dick last year. That's not me putting myself down, but a fact made blatant by my actions. Despite this, however, there were so many people who still treated me with care, support and love that I was completely bowled over. Many of these people are from this town I have called home only for the past 2 years, which makes it all the more overwhelming. It also made me realise that we're all dicks occasionally (some more than others) and that's just part of life. Nobody is perfect.

Last year was not a barrel of laughs with huge, rollercoaster type up and downs but I am so grateful for the amazing ups that it brought my way. The biggest peak was, of course, welcoming Fern into the world. That certainly wasn't something that I thought I'd be doing at all let alone in 2017. What the actual fuck?

I am determined that 2018 will be a little less WTAF and a little more planned and placid (that could be shortened to PAP but that's not a great acronym for what you would like to be a positive year). Therefore, I am setting out my goals and of course linking up with Best Boot Forward. If you haven't seen the exciting news about this then you must read all about it!

So, here it goes – see what you think.


Finances

I have always been utterly terrible with money. My anxiety has played a very big part in this, and my financial issues have played a very big part in my anxiety too. In the past, the more I seemed to let things build up, the more I wanted to bury my head in the sand and things would snowball out of control. This is not an uncommon experience for people with mental health problems and there is a lot of help out there. I am fortunate enough to have a supportive family who have never judged me and helped where they can. In 2017 I felt able to take control of my finances more than I had been able to in the past and following on from this I would like 2018 to be the year I get on track to fully becoming financially stable and responsible. I'll be doing this by planning more, utilising my Excel skills to see exactly what is coming in and going out and facing the scarier bits relating to my debts. I'll also look to be a little more frugal and put any savings I make away and not touch them. Any advice on this subject is very much appreciated!

Relationships

As I mentioned, I was bowled over by the support I had from a lot of people last year. Now that I am on maternity leave, it's important I make the time and effort to get out of the house and see people, making the most of the amazing friends I have here. I'd also love to have more visitors. We live so far from family and old friends and haven't really ever hosted them here, so would love to do so, especially given this is such a beautiful part of the world to holiday in. Social interaction is not something that comes naturally to me, and I have always struggled to know what the norms are but I am proud to have come quite far and I aim to continue to put myself out there, and really work on my social skills in general. I have also been saying that I will go to a mother and baby group since F made her way here but have not yet made it, so my first step will be to tick that off the list. Also, simply to not be a dick this year.

Blogging

2018 is going to be the year that I get serious about blogging. I have the time and [most of the time] the motivation but I need a routine to follow that will ensure I am productive enough. At the moment, I'm mostly just muddling by but with the launch of #BestBootForward there is a big opportunity to build momentum again with my blogging – something I haven't done since I blogged at Gertie and Ginger back in 2011/2012. I also want to re-gain my courage to press post on some more in depth posts. I have shied away from this since 2015 due to someone in my life using my blog to try to manipulate me. That is firmly in the past now, and I won't be held back by ill-founded fear of being judged. Succeeding in this goal means having a basic but flexible plan that works around baby, including set days for blogging with a minimum amount of time dedicated to post writing and publicising every week.

Overuse of Exclamation Marks (!)

I'm determined to kick the habit. I don't know what it is about that pesky little punctuation mark but I do love to finish a sentence with it, which can often make me look like a simpleton. Given that I have a very dry sense of humour I have no idea why I use it so much but I really need to reel it in…


So, all in all a mixed bag of goals. Best Boot Forward is underway so if you haven't read about it please do as we hoping to gather a wonderful community up to see through the year and beyond. We have a little Facebook group which we would love a few more folks to join – please pop by and say hello!

And finally, I'll share with you a good old pair of muddy boots, one of my many favourite pairs. If you're interested they're Rocket Dog ones and they have taken some tough Welsh weather over the past couple of years and still going very strong!



6 thoughts on “Striding”

  • You are about to have an amazing year and if being a that rotten word you use which I hate leads to joys like Fern that is has much to recommend it. I am doing a course on finances which I will send you a link to at some point or remind me. You are so right about mental ill health and money and the connection between them and Martin Lewis is working on this which is great so that awareness gets raised that often times we are mad not bad. Your social skills were perfect when we met apart from the lack of cake which Ramsey still bangs on about!!!! Oh and as you can see I love the over-use of exclamation marks!!!!!!!! Thanks for being you!

    • Thank you! I had so much cake to eat after you left haha I’ll make it up to you all next time, I promise. I feel like this year is going to be a full and fortune filled one. I could be wrong, but starting out with optimism! As I say, no ones perfect and it did give me a slice of unexpected happiness!

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